Can Men Have Multiple Orgasms? How to Get There

Last updated: October 2026

Before anything else, the caveat this subject needs and rarely gets.

This is not birth control. It is an extremely poor method of it, and treating it as one is a serious mistake. "Non-ejaculatory" does not reliably mean nothing left your body. It means nothing obvious came out of the end. Those are different claims. If you contract hard after the process has already started internally, the semen takes the path of least resistance and travels backward into the bladder instead, where it leaves later with urine. That is harmless. It is also still ejaculation, just pointed somewhere else. Add pre-ejaculate to the picture and the contraception argument falls apart entirely.

With that said.

There is a muscle in your body that you have almost certainly never trained, and it is the one that decides how the most intense ninety seconds of your week actually go. Not metaphorically. Mechanically. It is a thin hammock of muscle slung across the floor of your pelvis, and it is holding up more than you probably want to think about on a Tuesday.

Most men never think about it at all. Then at some point a man reads that there is a way to have the orgasm without the ending, to stay hard, to keep going, and to do it more than once. And it sounds like a rumour. A thing other men can supposedly do.

So: can men have multiple orgasms? Yes, and it is not a rumour. It has a name, a physiology, a two-thousand-year paper trail, and a muscle you can train. What it does not have is a shortcut, which is the part most of the writing on this subject leaves out. This is what I know about it, including the eighteen months I spent doing it badly.

Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events

This is the part most men never get told, and everything else follows from it.

Orgasm happens in the brain. Ejaculation is a reflex that runs through the spinal cord. They almost always arrive together, which is why we think of them as one thing and why the language only has one word for the pair. They are separate systems, and separate systems can be separated.

The term for doing that on purpose is non-ejaculatory multiple orgasm, shortened to NEMO. You reach the peak, you keep the erection, and because the ejaculatory reflex never fires you never drop into the refractory period that normally ends the session.

Worth being precise about one thing, because most writing on this topic is not. The usual explanation is that you avoid a flood of prolactin, the hormone long assumed to cause the refractory period. That explanation is now shaky: research published in 2020 found no evidence that prolactin determines the refractory period at all. The refractory period is real. What causes it is less settled than it was ten years ago, and we went through that properly here.

Men have been writing this down for two thousand years

In 1973, archaeologists opened a tomb at Changsha, in Hunan. Inside were seven medical manuscripts written on silk, sealed in 168 BCE. Among them, instructions for sexual practice. Someone in Han-dynasty China thought this material was worth writing on silk and worth burying with the dead.

The Chinese tradition has a name for the genre: fangzhongshu, 房中術, the arts of the bedchamber. It was not fringe material. Physicians wrote it, emperors consulted it, and it sat inside medicine rather than outside it. Some of what we know about the Tang-dynasty manuals survives only because a Japanese physician named Tamba no Yasuyori copied passages into the Ishinpō in 984 CE, and the Chinese originals were later lost. The Mawangdui texts were first fully translated into any language in 1997, by the sinologist Donald Harper.

What were they writing about? The separation. The claim that orgasm and ejaculation are two events, that a man can learn to take one without the other, and that the lever is the muscle floor of the pelvis plus the breath plus where you put your attention. Written on silk, two thousand two hundred years ago, and it is the same claim this page is making.

The practice reached English-language readers mostly through Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams and their 1996 book The Multi-Orgasmic Man, where it travels under the name sexual kung fu. And that name is the part I keep coming back to.

功夫, kung fu, does not mean a secret. It means skill earned through time and effort. So the oldest name for this thing already tells you what it costs. Not a trick you learn on a Thursday. A practice. Before anyone had written a training program or built a device or counted a rep, the name for it was already the word for showing up repeatedly until you got good.

I find that genuinely reassuring, and I did not expect to. The longer version of this history is its own piece, including the parts that do not hold up.

Two honest notes, because admiring a tradition is not the same as swallowing it.

The classical premise is that ejaculation drains a vital essence, jing, and that conserving it buys health and long life. That is the part the evidence does not support. The largest cohort study on the question, published in European Urology in 2016, followed 31,925 men and found that those reporting 21 or more ejaculations a month had roughly 19 to 22 percent lower risk of a prostate cancer diagnosis than those reporting four to seven. It is observational, the authors cautioned against over-reading it, and Mayo Clinic calls the evidence inconclusive. But the direction is the opposite of depletion. Whatever NEMO is for, it is not for saving something up.

And the tradition has a self-serving streak. The scholar R. H. van Gulik, whose 1961 survey opened this material to Western readers, coined the phrase "sexual vampirism" for the strand of it in which the man absorbs his partner's energy for his own benefit. That strand is really in there. I would rather say so than hand you a tidied-up version.

So: borrow the observation, which was correct. Borrow the technique, which works. Borrow the name, which is honest about the price. Leave the metaphysics on the shelf.

What it feels like with a weak pelvic floor

I came at this the way most men do, as a means to an end. I wanted to last longer. I read about the method, and the method sounded simple: as you get close, squeeze, and hold the squeeze.

What nobody mentions is what that costs you when the muscle is not ready for it.

It took everything I had. The entire contraction was a maximum effort, held through the exact window where the interesting part was supposed to be happening. I was so occupied with not losing control that there was no attention left over for any of it. The thing I was working so hard to reach was happening somewhere on the other side of a wall I was holding up with both hands.

And it did not always work. Plenty of attempts ended with the reflex winning anyway. On the ones that did work, the erection afterward was noticeably softer, because everything had gone into the hold.

That is the honest starting position. The technique is real, and attempting it on an untrained muscle is mostly an exercise in fatigue.

Why the muscle changes everything

The mechanism never changes. Ejaculation needs the pelvic floor to fire in a fast rhythmic pulse, over and over, and the bulbospongiosus does most of that work. Hold those same muscles in a deliberate sustained contraction and they cannot produce the pulse at the same time. You are occupying the machinery the reflex needs.

What training changes is not the mechanism. It is the price.

A trained pelvic floor produces the same contraction for a fraction of what you have available. The hold stops being a maximum lift and becomes something closer to a firm grip you can keep while thinking about something else entirely. Everything the orgasm was going to do internally still happens. The difference is that you are in the room for it.

Try this with a muscle you already own. Flex your bicep at what feels like a quarter of your capacity. Then half. Then three quarters. Then all of it. Four distinct steps, and you can feel the difference between them because that muscle has been trained by ordinary life. Now try the same four steps with your pelvic floor. Most men find that 50 and 100 are obvious and the other two blur into their neighbours. That blur is the whole problem, and it is trainable, which is what the ladder contractions in the program are for.

One distinction worth more than it sounds: tight is not the same as strong. A weak pelvic floor does not sit slack. It sits tense and reactive, holding tone it cannot release, which is exactly the state in which the reflex fires early and without asking you. A strong one is supple. It makes force when you ask and lets go when you do not. That is why every session ends with a full release, and why never letting go is on the list of common mistakes.

This is hands down the most important muscle group most men have, and hands down the most neglected. It almost feels irresponsible once you know.

The part nobody mentions: the erection

Control is only half of it.

The same muscles that hold back the reflex are the ones that compress the veins that would otherwise let blood drain away, which is what keeps an erection rigid in the first place. Blood arriving is the circulation half. Blood staying is this muscle.

Which means the trained version improves on two fronts at the same time. The hold costs less, and the erection it is protecting holds up better through it. Untrained, I was spending everything on the contraction and paying for it in firmness. That trade stops being necessary.

What to let yourself picture

I want to be careful here, because this is where writing on this subject usually starts making promises, and I am not going to.

So let me put it as an image instead of a forecast.

Imagine the hold costing you almost nothing. Not a wall you are bracing against with both hands, just a firm grip somewhere in the background, the way you hold a steering wheel without thinking about your hands. Imagine the peak arriving and your attention being entirely free, because it is not being spent on the one job it used to take all of you to do. Imagine that happening, and then the session simply continuing, because nothing ended it. Imagine it happening again. Imagine staying hard throughout, not as a separate achievement but because the muscle doing one of those jobs is the same muscle doing the other.

Is that a guarantee? No. Nothing on this page is.

Is it a fantasy? Also no, and this is the bit I would underline. The definition sex researchers use for male multiple orgasm, from Dunn and Trost's 1989 study in Archives of Sexual Behavior, is "two or more orgasms with or without ejaculation and without, or with only very limited, detumescence during one and the same sexual encounter."

Read the end of that again. Without detumescence. Staying hard between them is not my embellishment on the idea. It is written into the clinical definition, published in 1989, in a study of men who were already doing it. Their participants were self-selected and self-reporting, which is a real limitation and I am not going to quote their numbers. But the thing you are being asked to imagine is the thing researchers wrote a definition for.

That is what I would let yourself want. Not a promise. A target that somebody bothered to define.

An honest timeline, and why I dislike the question

Around eight weeks, you should notice something. Not mastery. Just that the attempt costs less than it did, and that you have slightly more room than you expected. Two months is enough for the muscle to have measurably changed, and it lines up with the clinical literature, which generally runs 8 to 12 weeks before pelvic floor training shows meaningful differences.

By the end of the full progression, six weeks on Basic and twelve on Advanced, call it eighteen weeks, you are somewhere else entirely. Comfortable enough that the contraction is not the main thing in your attention. That is the point where it stops being a technique you execute and becomes something you can simply do.

The ladder contractions in the Advanced program are the exercise that matters most here, and not by accident. The whole drill is producing contractions at 25, 50, 75 and 100 percent as four distinct, controllable levels. Graded control on demand is precisely the skill this requires. If you want one thing to pay attention to, that is it.

But I want to say something about the eighteen weeks, because I do not actually like counting them.

Nobody trains a muscle for eighteen weeks and then stops. You will be stronger at six weeks than at zero, stronger at eight than at six, stronger at a year than at eighteen weeks, and the number on the calendar was never the thing. Eighteen weeks is just where the program's structured part ends and the maintenance begins. Two sessions a week, fifteen or twenty minutes, indefinitely, the same way you would treat any muscle you actually cared about.

Which is where the old name for this earns its keep. Skill attained through time and effort. They were not describing a deadline. They were describing a practice, and a practice does not have an end date.

What to pay attention to, and what not to measure

Your tracker calculates a Power-Up Index every week from the load you lifted and the time you held it. That number is useful and it is deliberately narrow. It measures training volume and nothing else.

This other part does not get a number, and I would ask you not to try to give it one. Do not take a stopwatch to bed. The moment you are measuring, you have left the thing you were trying to be present for, which is the same problem as the maximum-effort contraction wearing a different hat.

Observe instead. Is the hold easier than it was a month ago? Is there more attention left over? Does firmness survive the attempt better than it used to? Those are notes, not metrics, and notes is the right format for them.

If you train with us, that is the kind of thing I would genuinely like to hear in the community. Not numbers. Observations. And only if you want to, because this is further into personal territory than anything else we ask about, and nobody owes anyone an update.

Where the training comes from

Everything above rests on a pelvic floor that can produce a strong contraction without using everything you have. You can build that unweighted, and the technique guide will get you started today for free.

The limit arrives later. Unweighted contractions have nowhere to go once the muscle adapts, and no way to tell you whether this month beat last month. That is the gap Power-Up fills, with a defined resistance ladder and a tracker that gives you a number instead of a guess.

The men at Changsha had silk, breath and attention. We have the same muscle and better instruments. The muscle has not changed in two thousand two hundred years. What has changed is that you can now put a number on it.

None of this is a guarantee and none of it is medical advice. What I can tell you is what changed for me, which is that the thing that used to take everything I had now takes considerably less. That is the whole claim.